~てほしい / ~てもらいたい / ~ていただく Japanese Grammar Lesson
Grammar Type: Auxiliary Adjective
Essential Meaning: Person X wants Person Y to do Z
- Verb て-Form + 欲しい
- E.g. 話して欲しい [I want X to speak]
- E.g. 食べて欲しい [I want X to eat]
- てほしい (て欲しい in kanji) is used to express that the speaker wants someone to do something. Like the regular adjective 欲しい, て欲しい typically marks first person subjects (i.e. the subject describes his or her OWN wants). It can also be used with second person subjects in interrogative sentence (i.e. the subject asks a second person about his or her wants). However, with a third person subject (i.e. a 3rd person wants someone to do something), てもらいたがっている should be used instead. This is a combination of the auxiliary verbs てもらう and がる as well as the auxiliary adjective ~たい.
- E.g. First Person Subject: 私は子供たちに私と一緒に住んで欲しい。[I want the children to to live together with me.]
- E.g. Second Person Subject: あなたはだれに来て欲しいですか。[Who do you want to come?]
- E.g. Third Person Subject: アダムさんはフランシスにこの仕事をしてもらいたがっている。[Adam wants Francis to do this job.]
- With て欲しい, the experiencer wants person X to do something. Person X is marked by the particle に.
- E.g. あなたはだれに来て欲しいですか。[Who do you want to come?]
- てもらいたい essentially means the same thing as て欲しい. The differences are that (1) てもらいたい involves the subject wanting someone to do something as a favor. て欲しい has no such connotation. (2) てもらいたい can be used when the subject wants someone of a higher status (e.g. a boss) to do something. In such cases, the humble form ていただく should be used. And as mentioned above, the auxiliary verb がる is affixed when the subject is a 3rd person.
- E.g. 私はあなたに英語を教えてもらいたい。[I want you to teach me English.]
- E.g. 私は吉田先生に来ていただきたい。[I would like Professor Yoshida to come.]
- E.g. アダムさんはフランシスにこの仕事をしてもらいたがっている。[Adam wants Francis to do this job.]
私はあなたに英語を教えて欲しい。[I want you to teach me English.]
私はこどもたちに私と一緒に住んで欲しい。[I want the children to come live with me.]
あなたはだれにきて欲しいですか。[Who do you want to come?]
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